When you finally decide to part ways with your partner, it can be a whirlwind of emotions. You can feel free, scared, optimistic, pessimistic, certain, confused; you’re going from certainty to a world of possibilities. You decide it’s time to dip your toes back into the dating pool, but you’ve got a big cloud hanging over your head: Erectile dysfunction. When you’re freshly divorced and saddled with ED, it can feel like it might be impossible to find someone. But here are some tips to keep in mind when dating after divorce with ED:
Don’t let it define you: While it may feel like ED is going to set the pace for your dating life, you need to remember that you are more than your erectile dysfunction. Focus on getting to know people, let your personality shine. Your ED is secondary, and it can be addressed at the appropriate time.
Don’t make it into more than it is: When you start dating again, it may feel like you need to air all of your dirty laundry right out of the gate to ensure you aren’t wasting your time. If it begins to seem like your new relationship is moving towards becoming physical, let your partner know of your affliction. Explain it thoroughly, and stress that you have ways to overcome it’s effects.
Be understanding: Not everyone is going to understand ED. If your new partner has questions or concerns, be understanding and accommodating. Answer their questions, explain the problem, and open a dialogue. It may be embarrassing to talk about, but it’s important to be clear about your problem.
When you’ve found someone who is accepting of your problem, take it slow. After divorce, it can feel like you’re in a race against time when it comes to relationships. But get to know your new partner, and you could find yourself living happily for many years.