A new relationship can be exciting, fun, and downright scary. Since you’re still getting to know each other, it can feel as though you’re walking on eggshells. You worry if you’re saying the right things, or if you’re going to scare your partner off. Erectile dysfunction can further complicate this getting to know each other process, because the man afflicted with ED may feel as though his issue could be a deal breaker for his partner.
But if approached appropriately, erectile dysfunction should be seen as just another facet of who you are.
Make sure to broach the topic before things get too hot and heavy in the bedroom. While engaging in foreplay, take a moment to tell your partner about your ED. Stress that there are plenty of workarounds to this issue, and that you can explore your options if the problem should rear it’s ugly head.
Remember to emphasize that ED is not a reflection of how you feel about your partner. While a failing erection could be seen as the man not being into you, this is not the case. It’s a mental and physical problem, and it is in no way an indication of how the man feels.
Stress that your issue requires patience. Erections won’t always be instantaneous, and that you’ll need to work as a team to overcome the problem. If an erection simply isn’t in the cards that night, find another way you can be gratified as a couple, either through foreplay or cuddling.
Telling your new partner about your erectile dysfunction can be scary, but if your partner really cares about you and wants to stick around, your ED shouldn’t be a deal breaker.