A new sexual partner is always exciting. Something about a new body to learn, new preferences to figure out, new quirks to love; hopping into bed with a new partner is pretty much the adult equivalent of getting to open your presents early on Christmas morning.
But a new sexual partner can be intimidating, too. You might worry that you won’t be able to satisfy your partner, or maybe that your kinks will scare your new partner off. There are so many question marks the first time you get together with a new sexual partner, it can be downright scary.
For some men, it can be so scary that it can prevent your little guy from standing at attention. With no erection, that means no sex. No sex means a disappointed partner. Disappointed partner means the connection fizzles out and dies, which means a disappointed you.
If you consistently find yourself unable to achieve an erection when with a new sexual partner, blame it on your brain.
If a man is nervous going into a sexual encounter, this can lead to wires getting crossed upstairs. On one hand, your brain is being told to send blood to the penis to initiate intercourse. Conversely, the anxiety you’re feeling about sexual activity is telling your brain to ignore this command, which cancels pumping blood to the penis.
Thankfully, this is a problem that can be easily overcome. Since it all boils down to anxiety, the solution is simple: Relax! Step back, take a couple calming breathes, and remind yourself that sex is supposed to be fun. Don’t focus on the negative “what if’s;” instead, focus on the new experience that lies ahead.
Work out a way to calm yourself down when you feel anxiety setting in, and explain to your new partner that you need to overcome this issue together. Through foreplay and patience, you should be ready to go in no time.