We’ve all heard the gag before: A man, in the throes of passion, feels the point of no return coming on. Desperate to hang on, he turns his mind to the least sexy thoughts possible: Baseball, Richard Nixon, his grandmother. Sure, such a set-up is good for a laugh, but is such a thing truly possible? For men that struggle with reaching orgasm too quickly, can the mind be focused on other things to prolong sex?
Well, despite being used in just about every raunchy teen comedy since the invention of the wheel, thinking “un-sexy” thoughts in an attempt to stave off orgasm isn’t very effective. Even if you were to turn every mental synapses at your disposal to thinking about puppies and ice hockey, the signals your erection is sending to the brain to alert it that’s its time for orgasm will override any stray thoughts you happen to have.
So, no, focusing on other things to stave off an orgasm is not effective. However, there are other techniques men can use to prevent themselves from reaching their tipping point too quickly.
The most effective method remains the stop-and-go technique. This requires you go until you feel yourself reaching orgasm, and then withdraw. Take deep, calming breaths and refrain from any sexual activity for a minute or two. When you feel your body beginning to unwind and your impending orgasm subsiding, you’re clear to get reengage. Admittedly, it will take some practice to pinpoint the perfect time to withdraw, but with work, you can get the stop-and-go technique down to a science, ensuring you’ll have no problems lasting between the sheets.
So next time you want to prolong your bedroom time, don’t think of Jimmy Carter or kittens. Try out the stop-and-go technique, and you should be able to last much longer.