In basically every sex comedy movie released since 1962, there always seems to be a scene where one of our plucky heroes finally hops into bed with a beautiful woman. All is well until our protagonist feels the point of no return coming on, leading to an internal monologue about how the protagonist needs to think about baseball, his grandmother, and Dick Cheney naked on a cold day. It’s a tried and true joke, but is it possibly based in reality? For men that struggle with reaching orgasm too quickly, the concept of using the mind to delay orgasm certainly is appealing. So while it might work in American Pie, can real men actually think non-sexual thoughts to delay orgasm?
Research has found that most men will reach orgasm within 3-4 minutes of penetration. For men that suffer from premature ejaculation, the moment of truth tends to arrive much faster, be it in a matter of seconds or after a minute. For men that struggle to last between the sheets, no solution or stop-gap is too crazy to explore in an effort to last just a little bit longer. But one of the easiest ways to prolong intercourse is actually entirely mental.
Yes, thinking non-sexy thoughts really can help a man to last longer in bed, but only to a point. If a man tries to turn his thoughts to abstract ideas when orgasm is already imminent, it will be too late. But used as a method to come back from the brink, it can be quite efficient. It works like this: When you feel yourself getting too excited, turn your mind elsewhere. Pick a subject that isn’t sexual, but don’t pick something that could cause you to lose your arousal entirely. Focus on the subject of your choice intently for 5-10 seconds, and then resume thinking about intercourse.
5-10 seconds may not seem like much, but it will give your body and brain a nice little “breather” that should help you to last longer in bed. Once mastered, a man can use this little tactic to bring himself back from the point of no return several times, allowing the bedroom tryst to go for as long as you want. So while it might have seen funny in all those 80’s sex comedies, this technique is no laughing matter.