Men often find themselves wondering just how often they should be having sex. Sure, this sounds silly, as sex is meant to be a fun, personal activity that happens when it happens, but many men see sex as a milestone meant to be achieved as frequently as possible. But for other men, sex doesn’t happen as often. No more your approach to sexual activity, it’s important to remember there is no “normal” when it comes to hopping between the sheets; how often, or how little, a man has sex is his business. But for men that don’t engage in sex quite as often, a very real threat can loom over the activity: The possibility of premature ejaculation.
“After all,” these men reason, “My body isn’t as used to sexual feelings, so I will likely reach orgasm faster next time I have sex.” But this isn’t necessarily true. A man can go years without engaging in sex, and can still have no problem lasting as long as necessary in the bedroom. When it comes to reengaging in sexual activity, especially after a lull, it’s important to remember one thing: It’s all in your head.
Oftentimes, men that haven’t had sex in a while will get so excited over the prospect of sex that it causes them to reach orgasm quickly. If a man constantly encounters this problem, it can spiral into a mental hang-up, as the man becomes convinced he is dealing with premature ejaculation, thus leading to the development of premature ejaculation.
So when it comes time to get intimate, take a deep breathe, center your mind, and focus on the task at hand, rather on the excitement of the task at hand. Focus on pleasing your partner, but don’t focus so intently that the thought of sexual pleasure becomes all-consuming. Focus your mind, take your time, and just be in the moment.
It might sound difficult, but it’s all about finding the right degree of focus in your mind. When you reach this Zen-like state, sex, no matter how exciting, will not cause you to reach your breaking point too soon. But if you come into a new sexual encounter all worked out, an early finish and disappointment is the only thing that lies in your future.