Category: Premature Ejaculation

Ever since your premature ejaculation developed, you’ve struggled to last in the bedroom. At one point in time, you were able to go for long periods of time, leaving both you and your partner exhausted by the end of it all. But now you’re lucky to get a couple minutes in before you blow your top. It’s embarrassing, it’s troubling, and you’re determined to overcome it. Only problem is, you’re not really sure how to. You vaguely remember a friend making a passing comment about how masturbating before hopping between the sheets could help a man to last longer. Could this be the solution you’ve been looking for?

Well, yes and no. Yes in the short term, but a resounding no in the long term. You see, when a man masturbates, it desensitizes the penis. When the penis is desensitized, it can last just a bit longer when it comes time for the real thing. So, yes, masturbating before sex can in fact help you to circumvent your premature ejaculation and last longer.

However, this solution is in no way, shape, or form or permanent. If a man relies solely on masturbation to last longer in the bedroom, he’s indulging in a temporary solution and could be avoiding addressing potentially hazardous problems. Premature ejaculation can be caused by internal health issues, including urinary tract infections, and can prove dangerous if left unchecked.

So if you’re looking for a quick workaround for your premature ejaculation, consider masturbating before you get down to the task at hand. But keep in mind that this is only a stopgap. Talk to a doctor about your issue and work to find a way to stop your premature ejaculation once and for all.

Let’s start this explanation with a reassurance: There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation. It’s a natural way to get to know your body, and everybody does it. With that said, there are certainly a lot of stigmas and rumors attached to masturbation. Hairy palms, losing your sex drive, etc., etc. One of the most persistent rumors about masturbation is that it can lead to permanent premature ejaculation in a man if done excessively.

Well men fret not. Even if you opted to masturbate 24/7, 365, you wouldn’t find yourself popping your top sooner when you got down to business with your partner. Excessive masturbation plays absolutely no part in your ability to reach orgasm.

Now, with that said, masturbation can lead to premature ejaculation if done incorrectly. It’s not about how often you do it; it’s about how long it takes you.

If you rush through masturbation in an attempt to reach orgasm quickly, then you are training your mind and body to view sex as a race. By finishing quickly, your body is being conditioned to believe that a quick orgasm is the best thing. This can translate to the bedroom, where you will find yourself reaching your peak quicker

If you decide to masturbate, take your time. If your body and mind view a quick orgasm as the end all be all, you’ll find you won’t be able to last when having sex. By training your body to last longer when masturbating, you’ll find that longevity will translate to the bedroom.

So excessive masturbation won’t cause you to develop premature ejaculation. But being masturbating incorrectly, you could be trading quick satisfaction for lifelong disappointment.

As of late, you’ve begun to notice that your trysts in the bedroom is getting shorter and shorter. While you used to be able to last for hours, you’ve been reaching your peak within a couple minutes. You’re disappointed in yourself, and your partner isn’t too pleased about it, either. You may be afflicted with premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation could drastically affect your love life, preventing you from getting physical with your significant other. To overcome your premature ejaculation, it’s important to figure out what’s causing it. Here are some possible culprits behind your premature ejaculation.

Psychological: A mental hang-up could be to blame for your newly developed problem. It could be depression, anger, guilt; your emotional and psychological state could weigh heavily on your bedroom performance. For instance, if you’ve been feeling guilty over something, you may rush through sex, causing your body to throw in the towel quicker. To shake off your premature ejaculation, you need to work to get into a more positive mental headspace. See a psychologist or mental health expert to discuss your feelings, and you can come up with ways to overcome your problem.

Erectile Dysfunction: If you feel anxious about potentially losing your erection, your body may take this as a sign to get through sex quickly to avoid potential embarrassment. If you’re struggling with erectile dysfunction, worrying about it may lead to premature ejaculation. Speak with a doctor about your ED, and he can give you medication, tips, and tricks to last longer in the bedroom.

Physical: Low hormones, nerve damage, prostate inflammation; there are a litany of physical problems that could potentially lead to premature ejaculation. Consult a doctor to get to the bottom of any underlying problems that could potentially be causing your premature ejaculation.

If you find it difficult to last between the sheets, you could be afflicted with premature ejaculation. While this can be an embarrassing problem, there are ways to rid yourself of the affliction. Here are some methods you can utilize to shake off your premature ejaculation.

Kegel exercises: Commonly reserved for pregnant women, it’s been found that kegel exercises can be immensely helpful for men. Kegel exercises help to strengthen and tone the pelvic muscles. By working these muscles, you can improve your pelvic control, which can help you to last longer in bed.

Deep breathing: Engaging in some light meditation may help your premature ejaculation. By regulating your breathing and focusing on the task at hand, you can control the arousal and tension that typically leads to an early finish. Practice breathing exercises outside of the bedroom, and then slowly introduce it into your love life.

Stop-And-Start: When making love, get all the way to the precipice of orgasm, but pull out. Bring your chin down to your chest and take deep, calming breaths. This will stop your orgasm dead in it’s tracks, allowing you to last longer. Whenever you feel yourself nearing an early completion, simply use this technique and you should be back in the game.

If you find yourself unable to last in bed, you could be suffering from premature ejaculation. When this problem rears it’s ugly head, one of the first questions you may find yourself asking is “Why me?” Well, unfortunately, that’s a difficult question to answer. Despite extensive research, the exact cause of premature ejaculation isn’t known. It could be caused by psychological factors or biological problems, or it could even be a combination of both.

At one point, researchers believed premature ejaculation to be caused solely by psychological factors, such as anxiety, stress, or guilt. But as time has gone on, experts have come to realize that premature ejaculation is much more complex than initially thought. While stress, anxiety, and guilt can lead to premature ejaculation problems, they aren’t the only ways to develop the problem. It has been found that a variety of biological issues can lead to premature ejaculation, such as:

–       High/low hormone levels

–       Thyroid problems

–       Issues with the reflex activity of the ejaculatory system

–       Nerve damage

–       Inflammation of the urethra or prostate

Ultimately, the cause behind your premature ejaculation can vary. To ensure it is treated correctly, see a physician to discuss possible causes and forms of treatment.

Because not all patients react in the same way to certain medications, selecting the so-called best is not really possible.

Among the oral drugs that have helped some men to overcome premature ejaculation, none is specifically approved for the treatment of PE, but they have side effects that make them useful in delaying ejaculation. MayoClinic.com says these drugs fall into three basic categories:

Antidepressants: Certain selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, prescribed primarily to combat depression, have a tendency to delay orgasm. SSRIs that have helped fight PE include fluoxetine (Prozac and Sarafem), paroxetine (Paxil), and sertraline (Zoloft). If none of the SSRIs helps, your doctor might prescribe clomipramine, a tricyclic antidepressant sold under the brand name Anafranil.

Analgesics: Tramadol, sold under the brand name Ultram, is prescribed to relieve pain, but its side effects also delay ejaculation.

PDE5 Inhibitors: Although the primary purpose of these drugs is to restore erectile function, they do help some men to delay ejaculation.

Premature ejaculation is the most widespread form of sexual dysfunction, affecting roughly 20 percent of all men between the ages of 18 and 59, according to the Urology Care Foundation. The primary modes of treatment for PE are low-dose antidepressants and anesthetic creams that are topically applied to the head of the penis 20 to 30 minutes before sexual activity.

Although there is no widely used surgical procedure for treating PE, two Iranian researchers reported on an experimental form of surgery that was helpful to circumcised men who still had remnants of their foreskin present. Under local anesthesia, 47 men had these foreskin remnants surgically removed. Asked to report on post surgical changes in their sex lives, 95.7 percent of the men said they had better control over ejaculation. Time to ejaculation from the beginning of intercourse went from an average of 64.25 seconds before surgery to 731.49 seconds after the procedure, according to the study, which was published in the May-August 2011 issue of “Urology Annals.”

Just as depression is one of the many psychological causes of erectile dysfunction, it is also one of the causes of premature ejaculation, which occurs when a man reaches orgasm and ejaculates before he wants it to happen. This lack of ability to control the timing of ejaculation not only causes distress to the man who suffers from it but to his sexual partner as well.

A South Korean study, published in the July 2011 issue of The Journal of Sexual Medicine, evaluated 334 men for signs of PE. For purposes of standardization, researchers established a definition of presumed PE as “a short ejaculation time [five minutes or less from beginning of intercourse], an inability to control ejaculation, and the presence of distress resulting from PE.” They found that 25.4 percent of the test subjects self-diagnosed as having PE, but only 10.5 percent actually matched the study’s PE definition. Although a link was found between depression and PE for most men studied, it was particularly apparent among those who self-diagnosed PE but didn’t really have all the symptoms.

For many who experience premature ejaculation, using a condom — the thicker the better — reduces sensation to the penis enough to allow them to last longer during sex. If using a regular condom fails to get the results you’re hoping for, your next best bet, according to MensHealth.com, is to use a desensitizing condom.

These performance-enhancing condoms usually have a numbing agent, such as benzocaine or lidocaine, on their inside lining. If you have very sensitive skin or have difficulties achieving erections, a desensitizing condom may be problematic for you. If you’re not sure how one of these condoms will work for you — or even if it will — MensHealth suggests trying one during masturbation before you use it with a partner.

The numbing agent used inside these condoms usually allows a man to last a few minutes longer during sex. MensHealth warns against trying to duplicate these desensitizing effects without a condom by applying lidocaine or benzocaine to your penis because it could cause a loss of sensation for your partner.